I’ve loved this little challenge, I don’t think challenge is the right word to be fair it’s more of a gift than anything and today I can enjoy nominating three people to enjoy this present.
So as far as this writing goes here are my final three…
1. Waking up already listing what I’m grateful for, add to this my hands were also in prayer position and you have yourself someone with a new positive gratitude habit baby.
2. Yoga, I’m off to see my teacher for a 121 today and I am eternally grateful for the lessons I’ve learnt thus far and continue to learn. After the weekend I’ve realised how very far I’ve progressed and it has renewed my energy for consistent primed action steps. I’m grateful to all my teachers, guides and mentors, thank you all.
3. Love, love, love, all of it filling my heart and body, my life, home, relationships, writing, business, health, wealth; tumbling, spilling, spiralling, swirling, floating, connecting all of us together.
With love in mind I am showing myself further self care and will be signing off from writing for a couple of weeks as I’m committing to editing my debut book, Love Perfumes Inside Here; writing and editing at the same time are like being pulled by willful horses in opposite directions and I’m giving myself permission to stay still and enjoy the editing process. It’s a little like being engaged to be married; you need to enjoy every second as the fiancé stage is over in a jiffy.
Watch this space dear ones, the book, she is arriving very soon and I hope you love her as much as I do.
A Sunday, filled with experiences and learning, some of which I don’t necessarily have to repeat…
Today, the three things I am thankful for are,
1. Car Boot Sale in the South of London; today I witnessed more miracles in seconds than I thought possible. The short version of this morning is Mr S and I packed up the car to head out and enjoy selling items we no longer had use of. As soon as we entered into what can only be described as the gladiator pit of boot/yard sales our goods and we were swarmed upon. Human after human came clambering ant like onto the goods, the car, into the vehicle, into our space and further inside our own private space. I was surprised and overwhelmed, flabbergasted and joyful, it was bloody amazing to behold. The turning point was when somehow someone had found my bag and emptied it, and then they brought all my stuff to me including my phone and various bits and bobs. ‘ How much do you want for this stuff?’ She asked. ‘ Oh,’ I replied, ‘Um actually that’s all mine.’ Quick as a tribe can gather a circle of women defending me gathered around me. “That’s the girls things.’ Said one. ‘ Good God, ‘elp her out.’ Said another. ‘Listen girl look after your things you silly girl. ‘ere we’ll ‘elp you.’ And so it was that a group of strangers became my matriarchs and they watched out for me as vulture after vulture swooped in to grab, peck and potentially steal; these kind strangers held me in their hearts and protected me; from a car boot sale. Yes you read it right, from a car boot sale. Moral of the story? Be who you are, heart and eyes open and folks will help out if you let them.
2. Donating to charity post car boot sale, always a gift and a blessing
3. Digging up the carrots you are going to eat in 15 minutes with a friend in their garden. Delicious.
Blessed be on this Sunday, until tomorrow day five.
I kid you not it is really hard for to only nominate three things a day I’m grateful for, I can’t say it’s always been this way, well I’ve always been thankful, just not as consciously as I am now blessed to be. I wonder what life is like without gratitude and loving mindfulness; I know I’ve come along way when I consider these elements of my life. Where once I read many meanings into the things people said, now I read none, I enjoy conversations at face value, if I think there’s a duality to the words I ask for clarity. I’m celebrating how far I’ve come in designing and shaping and shifting my life, it’s a full time job, but what a job; beautiful, loving, generous of spirit I’m letting my soul shine bright. Give it a go and be the change you want to see in the world.
Today, the three things I am thankful for are,
1. A long lie as it’s Saturday, which wasn’t actually a massive long lie as I woke up at 8.30, it’s more the fact it’s the weekend and I didn’t have to be awake if I didn’t want to.
2. Home made maple syrup pancakes with roasted banana and French roast coffee. Yum.
3. Playing in the park with my beloved. As in swinging from trees on gymnastic rings, hugging trees and sitting cross-legged on mamma earth watching the world go by. Bliss.
Happy Saturday, until tomorrow.
As you know I live my life in conscious gratitude, as I walk around wherever I am in the world I run my gratitude lists and have been doing this for some time. Before I go to sleep I give thanks for the day and on waking I’m always appreciative of a good nights rest, dreams, morning messages in my mind and the gift of the day ahead.
Yesterday was no exception in terms of events to be grateful for, the three things I am thankful for are,
1. Not being able to actually get into Marianne Williamson’s last minute talk in London, as she hopped out the car opposite my friend and I addressed everyone, said hi and hopped into the venue. Said friend and I went to enjoy a bite to eat, then a glass of champagne at The Covent Garden Hotel Bar, who should walk in Marianne and her team. We sent a drink over and as a result spent some time with the lady herself, all smiles, warm embraces, my copy of her latest book is now bursting with her beautiful loving hand written words and we have the in on the her next surprise adventure to London. I’ve loved Marianne’s work for years and have always looked forward to the date we’d meet, yesterday was that day and it was AWESOME!! If you don’t know her work check it out, she ran for Congress this year, her goal to bring consciousness back into politics. The woman is a legend.
2. At the bar, my chum and I were talking about having a decadent girls night out, dressing up and bringing a touch of the Middle East to London. Then I found a 500-dirham note, randomly, which paid for our drinks with change.
3. I found a Native American Indian necklace my mommy bear gifted me some years ago; I’d misplaced it in the recent de-clutter of 2014 and there it was on my dresser as if it had been there all the time, knowing me it could have been there all along… It’s my latest good luck charm and will be frequently found around me in the coming days and months as with it I met Marianne and more.
For these wonderful adventures, family, friends and charms I am incredibly grateful, who knows what wonders will arrive today. Blessings to you all.
Positive Days Challenge
Today a beloved kinsman nominated me and two other friends to take part in a social commentary project, which is bobbing about Facebook at the moment, you may have seen it, it asks folks to write about what makes them happy, grateful, thankful and of course this is right up my street, rue and avenue.
The rules of engagement are simple.
1. Nominate three chums
2. Invite them to write three things they are thankful for once a day
3. For five days
4. On the fifth day nominate some of your chums
Today, the three things I am thankful for are,
1. A beautiful nights slumber, waking to dappled sunlight reaching through the horse chestnut tree in front of our window and morning smiles
2. Watching a short documentary on the Burning Man festival, told by Emily Fletcher, actress and founder of Ziva Meditation and being reminded of all that is humanly possible; everything is possible, joyfully, beautifully so.
3. Running water, drinkable from the kitchen tap, washable from the showerhead and brushable for my teeth in the bathroom sink.
For these three things and many more my entire being, soul, heart and all my cells are entirely grateful; until tomorrow dear ones, until tomorrow.
Sometimes relationships can feel so easy so simple you wonder why everything in the world cannot be this way. Some chums and I have set sail on a little adventure, the ease of which is so joyful we know we are bound for great things.
Ease of approach, shared values and a love of strategy between said treasure hunters makes for further simplicity in developing our ideas and our maps. The project isn’t about money it’s about helping people find a certain type of information based on our research and our questions to other people ‘what do you seek?’ We’ve researched the gaps and found another little niche to dive into as winter approaches. The waters may be getting colder, but the pull of the outcome is strong and hot.
I’m not calling this a start up even though technically it might be, I’m calling it a smart up; together we’re taking our smarts combining them and serving something fresh. The added bonuses, we are made up of artists and manager/leaders with entrepreneurial flair, a rather marvelous combination of natural talents, ideas and business savvy. If you want to succeed then the best crew on the planet is needed.
A plan has been hatched, thinking and development time is in play, design and content afoot, shared values and language underpinning; we know what we’re cultivating and this makes for an exciting treasure map. We have our X, we have a plan, we’ll travel one degree at a time.
I’ve had a chance to share and flair in manner of a cocktail yielding bar tender Business Master and will continue to do so. My own business is evolving, the outlines of my dreams are colouring in and soul sister journeys are riding along beside this treasure hunter ship in manner of beautiful sea creatures, mer-folk and dolphins. The hunt is on my friends and I’m finally at the helm of my adventure, standing side by side with my beloved and our crew of treasure hunters. Our heart songs yield the same tune and our sea shanties are in time with the north winds and ocean waves as we sail towards our prize islands and beyond.
Within Business Mastery (BM) we learnt a lot, there are more sophisticated way to say this, but a lot sums up my child like enthusiasm for the whole adventure. We were given oodles and oodles of tasty thoughtful treats, gifts of knowledge and how to utilize our knowledge build action steps out if and take massive action towards being the best version of ourselves and our businesses.
Two such treats, what is business? Simply put it’s innovation and marketing. This means finding out what your customers want, asking can you do it and if you can give it to them. As I wrote earlier this week don’t give people what you think they want, give the customer what they actually want.
Innovation has been a buzz word across many sectors for a long time and can often illicit a rather empty feeling when only the word is used, but the ideas are withstanding, so how do you know you’ve come up with a good idea? You’ve done your research, you’ve sat in your thinking space, you’ve asked really great questions and thought around everything you can, you’re notes tumble around you and your writing hand aches with the effort of capturing everything on paper, of everything is front of you what’s good and what’s meh? For me it is literally the light bulb moment.
I trust my knowledge, the research, the process, my mulling time as I call it when I’m commuting. Wherever I am, the great ideas feel as if they come from the back of my brain and push through into my minds eye, I see them clearly, I sit up straighter and blink repeatedly. Sometimes I get goose bumps, other times my heart rate increases, sometimes I get both and occasionally a head ache, it’s always followed by ‘That’s it,’ and I know it’s the idea I need.
How do you know what a good idea, in fact an outstanding idea? Where in your body do you feel it, see it, sense it?
In the land of Business Mastery we talked about the importance of scheduling thinking time. I LOVE THIS CONCEPT. Have I done it yet? Nope. Have I scheduled it, well yes actually I have, for this Saturday. What am I going to think about? Well that would be giving away too much too soon dear reader.
I hear you all asking, but Ducky what the devil is thinking time and why would we want it? A very good question and like all good questions the answer is within the query. We need specific time to think, to test ideas, to reflect, consider, digest and integrate learning, to solve, to heal, to source, find and strengthen all that we are. Exciting, yes?
Rule number one: Schedule silent thinking time
Two: Ask yourself a question during your pondering stint
Three: Choose a consistent spot to sit and think
Four: If you’re old school like me bring a note book and pen along for the ride I believe in the cognitive difference it makes to our minds if we use pen and paper verses iPad etc.
Five: Allocate at least one hour, two is better; once a week is marvelous, twice a week will change and raise your standards further.
You may not solve your question, the gift is to allow yourself to think everywhere, I’m avoiding saying outside the box, as sometimes thinking in the box is exactly where the answers are unearthed.
The key is to pop a time or two in your diary and stick to it, get playful with your questions and thinking, it can be about you, your work, your service, personal life, the world.
Make it something you want to know more about, settle into your intellectual space and crack on as we say in the UK.
(Note: 302 words in 8 minutes…this shorter writing task is working for me this week, how is it for you?)
Carrying on with the telephone theme of yesterday and 300 word challenge, I wanted to share more of our learning from Business Mastery.
Many of us communicate via email, text or other means we constantly risk misunderstanding, particularly when reading emails, for some strange reason we are in the midst of an odd avoidance epidemic, no-one really likes to call people anymore. Or if they do, everyone assumes something bad has happened.
Thinking of my grandparents phone table again, the only query ever asked was after 9pm, ‘who would be calling at this time of night?’
I made rather a lot of calls yesterday, my ear stretched open in an attempt to pick up every available nuance from whom I was speaking with. I think we may well have lost the art of the telephone call; there was distraction, keyboard clicking and the callers mind was on more than one thing as papers shuffled or hands muffled over the receiver to answer another question. At times I closed my eyes listening even more intently to unpack what was happening at the other end.
As Tony Robbins encouraged, we really ought to pick up the phone more often, make the call, address what needs to be done immediately and follow up with email, don’t send an email first and then sit back twiddling thumbs telling ourselves we’ve done all we can. Have we done all we can? Without speaking to the other person, probably not.
I was blessed enough to make some fascinating connections across the week and will be making calls tomorrow afternoon to say hi, remember me, fancy a cuppa?
It’s unorthodox I know a) to actually follow up from training and b) to really pick up the phone, but if I don’t lead by example how can I expect my team to follow suit and to ensure the value chain is strengthened further? If we are to lead change, we must be the change we want to see in the world.
This week continues to be about priming my space, my mind and myself; I’ve jiggled the study around clearing more crap. How can you have anything left to clear? It’s a good question, but by moving things around more than once we discover all manner of cobwebs, dead bugs, dust and elements no longer useful to our lives.
Where once I wanted shiny pastel coloured filing cabinets I’ve swapped things around and now my baskets are filled with notebooks in every size, pens in every colour and a Fortnum & Mason picnic hamper is now home to my files, clients, training notes all neatly leant spine to spine supporting one another.
Could it be I have almost reached a stage of actually being organised, a mere four months after Unleash The Power Within and mere days post Business Mastery? What joy, what a gift, what oddness!
I’ve taken some time today to verify and clarify what truly wonderful chapters are unfolding, it’s marvellous.
I’m a natural planner, however the lessons of the value chain from Business Mastery are ringing loud in my ears. I’ve sent fewer emails than I have in months and I’ve picked up the phone more than I can remember; I’m adding value. It takes less time to call, it leads to better deals, it makes people feel cared for.
As a kid the phone table in my grandparents hall table was a place of make believe and fun. It was a beautiful piece of furniture, I adored it; phone books and note pads with pens sat atop the surface or in a little drawer and whenever the telephone rang you would find whomever had answered, perched delicately on the edge confirming plans to which no-one would be late.
We’d arrange to meet, I’d be there and so would you. This is my promise to my path, my work, my life, I’ve sat down at the phone table, answered the call and made the promise to meet life when I said I would, head on, no excuses, on time filled with excitement to be here.
(355 words….not bad)