In manner of Inspector Clouseau I will only say siz once, watching people give up and go home is a sign they’re not playing full out and a reminder to get back in the game, even if you ache, even if you think there’s nothing left, there’s always something inside us, this is the difference between excellent and outstanding, between a dabbler and a master; this is what makes us gladiators.
Most of my team mentally quit by 9pm last night, I could feel it and see it; individual financial tasks tore the heart out of the room, filled with artists, peppered with leaders with a splash of entrepreneurs. The first team member left just before 9pm, the second at 10pm, the third thirty minutes later. Does this say I’m a crap leader, nope, of course it tells me lots, but when I look to my career I know where I’ve gone wrong and where I’m doing well; I recognize it’s about how far individuals are willing to go for their development, for their value and for the place they are in the life right now.
Did I weep upon their leaving, nope, I did exactly what I needed to do, I found another team because we had work to do and I wanted to do it. I could have quit, thought to myself ‘well gee, the team have left, you’re alone, everyone else is in teams already…I’ll get my bag.’ Did I think this, hell to the no, I tested the water with some new folks and got to work, plus side I have more resources now, more people to feedback on my business ideas, the lessons are stronger.
There are times we are seated listening, note taking or working on our business plans, then we are hollered at to ‘STAND UP,’ and so I leap out of my chair, papers falling to the ground and pens frequently flying here, there and everywhere, apologies again to the row in front; now some might call this the actions of an over achiever, but I stand ready for what I’ve committed to do this week to play full out and to enjoy the next physiological shift. I’m all in, 100%, I leap around, jump on the spot, throw my arms about, I have the aching triceps to prove it and then high ten people like my life depends on it. The interesting thing is on day one I really only high fived the 4 or 5 people beside me, by the end of last night I knew the three rows in front of my and because I found a new team, another row from the other side….I run around and know who they all are.
Where people have stuck to their tribe of 5, I’m fully committed to my community of 700 and now I know at least 10% of the community and they know me. This is how we begin to develop a raving fan culture for our products, customers go away, clients stay. Simples.
It was an emotional roller coaster yesterday, Robbins connected with lots more people, quite frankly a terrifying place to be as he can see your bullshit before you’ve even stood up, he encourages you to lay it out, asks if it’s the truth, asks again, asks how it makes you feel, how it limits you then asks what if you didn’t have this thought, this belief how would it make you feel, what would your live be like? You are left with no more stories to limit yourself.
Our consistent goal is to ensure we are in a peak state, to maximize the best story we can and to strategise for our lives. If you are in a less than peak state everything is impossible, we then tell ourselves shockingly limiting stories and we’re stuck, when you’re stuck it’s time to change your state, being stuck doesn’t really exist, it’s a sign of literally laying in a bath of shit, which you drew for yourself, then you got undressed and now you’re wallowing in it. Just for fun you asked a few friends to join the pity party, so they sit around covered in your stink, whilst you repeat some crap story you made up about yourself, for example I’m not good enough, there’s too much to do, I’ll never be able to do it, I can’t leave, I have to stay, I need a new job, but can’t get one. Is this what you want? I don’t think so. What if I fail? What if you fail?! What if you bloody succeed? Get out the bath, change your state and make your move on life. Don’t get me wrong I’ve laid in the BS bath, I’ve perfumed my life with limiting beliefs at times, not trusted my gut, my knowledge, my skills, I know it, you know it, we all do it, the gift is to STOP DOING IT once and for all.
Robbins has another phrase ‘if you’re in your head, you’re dead, get in your heart, live from your heart, from love, serve and make this your mission.’ When he talks of serving it doesn’t matter what you do, just do it full out, with integrity and don’t blame anyone for where you are, you are exactly where you want to be. Ask yourself if money and time were no object where would you be? Don’t worry about the how, play around with the idea of doing your hearts desire, then work out the why, DO NOT ASK HOW! This is the last thing you wanna do, when you work out the why, the human spirit will find a way. Trust me, I’ve experienced this and it’s happening more and more frequently, I know where I want to get to, I’m training myself to worry less about the how and focus on the outcome.
Day 3 is around the corner and I’ve already got energy in my body to pull through, I’ll remind myself of this at 4pm. There’s a pattern of us being told we’ll be getting a break and then it’s 8pm, incredible what you can do when you leave you how’s at the door and bring in your peak state.
If you do just one thing today, step up, step up to your life, make one phone call, send one email to progress you towards the life you want to lead, you are the master of your destiny, live it.